How To Cut Spiritual Ties

The many ties that unite us are symbolized by emotional attachments and energy flows. Etheric cords are another name for these bonds. Each of us has millions of these cords linking us to various traditions, philosophies, relationships, and materials – single strands, tight braids, or tangled clusters.

What is a cord of attachment?

The idea of breaking a cord of attachment is to decouple the energy that you contributed to that person and the energy that they gave you. There are emotional and mental patterns that have occurred between you and another individual, and those patterns continue to exist.

What does it mean to be corded to someone?

Have you ever felt like you couldn't get by on your own, or that you were concerned with someone who seemed needy, or that you were in conflict with, or that you were genuinely worried about someone? Then you'll be able to relate to the people in the preceding cases. They're being drained by other people's energetically harmful associations. Cording is the name for this design. We've all been overburdened or scared at some point, and we've all corded. But what is it that makes us feel tethered for such a long time afterward?

What exactly is cording? Cording is a natural, universal, but ineffective way of dealing with situations where we are overwhelmed with need, helplessness, despair, shock, violation, or sympathy. It's an Automatic Protective Energy Pattern (see chapter twelve) that almost everyone experiences at some point in their lives, in which your energy is diverted from its intended goal in order to reach out to someone else. The phenomenon is mentioned in Shamanism and other traditions. Cording is the energizing effect of a stressful situation, an attempt to address an intractable problem or meet a need. Cording can occur in three different situations:

• Because your system has been overburdened by an attack, it is unable to effectively process and resolve it.

To save ourselves or them, we throw cords to others or accept cords from them, attempting to provide or take energy. Babies and mothers frequently exchange cords. When babies are distressed and don't know what to do, they reach out with all of their might for relief. Parents may chord their children in order to address the requirements of their crying, unable-to-communicate-by-talking newborns. But it's not just babies and ‘weak' individuals who do it. Couples that have been arguing for a long time. Frustrated employers and disgruntled employees do. I've met some of the most prevalent corders who are also very successful businessmen. They frequently have no idea how to connect with another person when it comes to relationships since they are so focused with their profession and so much of their energy is invested in winning power struggles, so they cord them in an attempt to make contact or get their needs satisfied. Rapists and their victims are bound together, on the one hand because of the monstrous extent to which they cut themselves off from their own internal life and relieve themselves by attacking others, and on the other hand because of the enormity of the catastrophic disruption of self that occurs when one's identity is invaded by such hostility and sadism.

Cording is not fundamentally a pathological act, despite the fact that it is almost usually thrown during attacks and violence. Sympathy, as opposed to empathy, encourages people to connect on a regular basis since sympathy entails walking into someone else's shoes. The problem is that you may then feel responsible for their demands, drawn into their anxieties, and your energy levels will plummet to match theirs. You are more prone to cord if you feel guilty or have an unconscious idea that you are to blame if someone else is unhappy. One of the most common setups is a combination of feeling responsible and helpless…

What does cording NOT entail? Cording is a common practice. It happens to everyone at some point. The cord is not the feeling of loss or powerlessness. It's a conscious attempt to do something in order to avoid feeling helpless or inept…

Cords aren't the real deal in a relationship. We grow the most in the framework of our relationships, but even the closest families can have snags. In an ideal world, family members would not disengage from each other or grab each other by the neck symbolically in response to stress. While dealing with intensity and misunderstanding, they stay present in themselves and with each other. In reality, they frequently bind each other…

We tend to cord each other when we're going through a hard stretch. The cording then drags down the relationships even more. When I advise that they be removed between children and their parents, or between other family members, people frequently worry that they will lose their love bond. The true link is not broken by decorating. Things straightens it out, removing the tangles and stumbling blocks that come with being stuck. Decording is frequently the item that saves a shaky relationship. When family members no longer feel exhausted, suffocated, pushed on, or worried to death, they have more freedom to breathe and be themselves, as well as learn to interact properly and openly…

Clearing cords has the added benefit of allowing relationships to flourish. You can assist all parties in their development by releasing energy that is stuck in the past or in a state of helplessness. Love and connectedness have more freedom to surface when the links are cut, freed from the matted weeds of unresolved anguish.

Whether you corded another person or allowed yourself to be corded, you must return your attention to yourself. What events in your life have lead you to believe that you need to save others or that you need to be rescued? What good does it do you to be the strong, caring one, or to believe you can't manage life? Do you feel compelled to attend to others' emotional needs, regardless of the cost to yourself? What did you fear would happen if you didn't do it in the past? You'll be able to realize that the current circumstance isn't actually settling the past or the future once you've answered these questions. Allowing the future, even the next hour, to be what it is is preferable to attempting to avoid it by wasting energy capital and damaging oneself.

Cutting cords is an example of how NOT to decorate:

Some cord-related traditions recommend that you cut the cord. I don't recommend that because I've seen a lot of individuals go to a practitioner who has done it and the cord is still flying around. They don't seem to be getting any better. They aren't fully free of the troublesome individual. They haven't managed to overcome their desire to toss or take cables. Furthermore, the cords have not been entirely re-integrated. They're constructed of genuine vitality. You haven't handled the energetic issue of having your energy out there in the first place, or of allowing someone else's energy into your area, if you merely cut them. And, in order to feel at ease, the individual will frequently cord someone else. It is necessary to undo the stasis holding them in place, complete the energy's return to its original pattern, allow the pattern that led to their being set up to undo, and then seal any rifts in the field in order to change the energetic event and learn to establish your boundaries in a healthier way.

Mary Pat had tried numerous types of healing and shamanism before meeting with me. She's a therapist who works with people who have personality disorders, and she sensed their attempts to strangle her. She could also feel the ropes entangling them in their own terrible patterns. “When working with borderlines, I'd start snipping” (a diagnosis for people like the character Glenn Close played in the movie Fatal Attraction). However, the method you're teaching it is more comprehensive and connected to what's really going on.”

What method do you use to decorate?

It will take some effort. The cords aren't thrown in a neat manner. They entail a variety of energies, based on the events and the person's unconscious desires or emotions. The cords are sticky and locked in if humans have been attacked (or have attacked others). Cords are even thrown in a tangle or as a scrambled blanket if people are desperate or the relationship is formed. Decording should be done in a systematic manner across the chakras to ensure that all sorts of energy are released. (Refer to the end of chapter thirteen for a refresher on the chakras.)

Survival, aliveness, sex, and power; emotions; integrity, connection, and love; and self-expression are the five most typically involved since they are the sites of the physical and emotional energies that we normally employ with other people. The eighth, which has to deal with boundaries, is also commonly included. (I work with a total of fifteen chakras.) We'll go over each of these in order to practice. You'll eventually be able to identify where you're corded and where you're not.

• They throw you because they're trying to get rid of some of their own baggage by dumping it on you.

Take a few moments to figure out which type you have. It's crucial to be able to understand the generating scenario clearly in order to clear the cords. (If you're having trouble figuring out where yours came from, seek the help of a therapist or someone who is well-versed in Energy Medicine.) You'll need someone who can see through your unique snafu.)

First, make sure your energy is aligned with the task at hand by declaring explicitly that you want to decorate, that you want your energy back, and that you will no longer tolerate being drained by others. Make any concealed assumptions about the need to save others at the price of your own well-being explicit. (Once you're free of cords, you'll see that it's neither useful or healthy for either of you.) This will set your intention, and your system will start releasing the chord locks and assisting you in your process.

It will be beneficial if you can suspend any skepticism you may have regarding the existence of cords, let alone your ability to detect them, and use your purpose to become aware of the energy you have invested in your issue person, and/or that they have attached to you. Experiment in a lighthearted, exploratory, or anthropological manner. Give yourself a chance to succeed. Self-doubt is the most significant impediment to using your energy consciously.

Take three deep breaths into your abdomen to ground yourself. The ground and the middle. Allow yourself to be free of all external concerns. Make yourself as conscious of your body as possible. Move down into your core, through the backs of your knees to your feet, up your back into your neck and head, through the fullness of your torso, into your shoulders, arms, and hands. As you go around the interior of your body, pay careful attention to any tight spots that you tend to overlook. Stop for a moment and just be in that space without trying to change it. Simply stand next to it and softly invite your energy, light, or warmth to enter. Intend for the energy to flow in such a way that you are awake in both the difficult and easy parts of yourself. Develop a stronger sense of belonging within your own body.

Imagine a person with whom you are stuck and conflicted. Place them in front of you in your mind's eye. We always clear the cables from the other person before pulling in the ones the client has sent when I teach folks how to do this. So, in your mind's eye, imagine that the stuckness you're experiencing is in the shape of cables from them to you. You may notice them looking at you with their usual helpless, hurt, accusing or condemning eyes, or acting as if you owe them, or as if they own you, depending on your experience with them.

Imagine a cord connecting their first chakra, located at the base of their spine, to you. It will normally land in your first chakra area, however this is not always the case. Take what you can get.

What is the method of attachment? Is it similar to a USB port? Is that a fish hook? Is there a latch? What's that thing on the end of your headphones? Perhaps it's similar to a suction cup or a claw hook. Imagine yourself unhooking, disconnecting, or gently tugging it out of you, whatever it is. Feel the energy in the cord as if it were palpable, then send it back to the other person. If you want, make shooing motions with your hands, as if brushing crumbs off your lap, and keep that energy going out of your extended space, your public space. It seems to be receding into the distance. It is not your responsibility to compel someone to reclaim their energy! You don't have to reconnect with them in that way. It's actually better if you don't. It is their job to take care of their own energies and behaviors. It is only your responsibility to clean up your personal area. Stay grounded when doing this so you stay in your body and don't get too caught up in the flow of energy. (When you're doing this, you don't want to be too ferocious.) If you were pushing a chair, you'd have to keep gripping it in order to push it. You want to let go, dust off your hands, and go on.) It is no longer under your control after it has left your space.

Examine their second chakra now. Imagine a cord running from their navel to you, about one-and-a-half inches below. Remove it from your grasp and send it on its way. Remember that you're just accountable for getting it out of your space, not for getting it back all the way. So, feel your aura all the way out to the horizon. It's easier to get it out if you're aware that you're occupying your own area.

Feel a cord connecting their solar plexus/diaphragm area (third chakra) to yours. Disconnect it from you and insist on it moving away from you and towards them. Intend for it to expand all the way out of your extended space, disappearing into the distance as it approaches them. Consider how your energy feels without it, in your own domain, unencumbered by theirs.

Continue with the fourth step, detaching their cord from you and sending it out at the heart level.

The sixth eye is located at the third eye. The seventh is located at the top of the head. The sixth and seventh grades are less likely to have cords, although it is conceivable.

Then try the eighth, which has to do with limits and is located below the collarbone in the hollows in front of the shoulders. Disconnect their cables from your field and demand that their energy leave.

Then, if you've opened your eyes, close them again and breathe into your stomach and hips. Check in with your body and allow it to calm for a moment without being drained by the cords.

Now, imagine that your investment in your problem person, whether from worry or feeling assaulted, is a cord, and your survival energy is affected. Send your awareness down to your first chakra area, at the bottom of your torso, and imagine that your investment in your problem person, whether from worry or feeling assaulted, is also a cord, and your survival energy is affected. Take note of how your rivalry has sucked energy from you that you can't afford to spend. You will be more energetic and totally present within yourself when you pull in your own cords and bring your energy back into your own sphere (and with other person, if you choose to be).

Insist on getting it back. Untangle your cable from them and imagine yourself reeling it in like a fishing line or a hose on a reel. Remind yourself that it is made of your own energy as it approaches you, even if it has been gone from home for a long time. It is not the energy of the other person. It isn't anything strange or hazardous. Take a deep breath into the middle of your pelvic bowl as it approaches. Exhale down your legs into your feet, making sure you breathe all the way to the rear. When the energy reaches their skin in the front, people have a tendency to halt. Invite it all the way in since it belongs merged with the energy system inside. After a brief moment of “Oh yeah, here I am, finally home!” Phew!” It will revert to its previous state before being ejected out of your system.

Imagine you have a cord from your second chakra, below your navel, to your conflict person once the first one feels entirely re-integrated. Untangle it from them and insist on bringing the energy back. Allow any emotional awareness you have to just be there as you reel it in. Allow your energy system to reconnect by breathing into the back of your sacrum.

Now visualize a cable running from your solar plexus to them. Disconnect it from them and insist on bringing it home. There's nothing wrong with making gathering signals with your hands. Allow it to enter through the opening in front of you and then let it settle. Deeply inhale and exhale up and down your spine.

Continue with the fourth, just above the base of your throat, the fifth, just above the base of your neck, and the eighth, just in front of your shoulders and below your collarbone.

Remember that they are accountable for their own life and sustenance. If their energy seems to flail or behave toxically as a result of you undoing the bonds, remember that they are responsible for their own life and sustenance. By not taking over for them, you are giving them the opportunity to learn about their own routines. They'll be fine dealing with their own energies.

Allow that person to vanish from your awareness once you feel your energy has returned to its proper place in your system. Take a few deep breaths and check in with yourself. Feel what it's like not to be tethered to them. Feel your unique edges as a distinct individual, not as a tangled tangle.

To avoid becoming corded in the future: With practice, you can avoid getting corded in the future and reduce your tendency to cord. You'll be able to recognize the feeling of wholeness that occurs when your system is free of such quagmires as you clear cords. You'll also notice them more easily when they happen again, and you'll be able to decord before any long-term negative patterns emerge or you feel depleted and resentful.

Never give from the depths of your well, but from your overflow, as the Sufi proverb goes. Decording allows you to do just that.

How do you cut an energy cord?

Cutting Cords Rituals: How To Untangle Energy Cords

• Salt Bath: Salt aids in the cleansing of your energetic body and the restoration of balance.
• Smudging: Smudging is a smoke-cleansing ritual that purifies the energetic body and aids in the re-establishment of a connection with the Divine.

What does a cord cutting meditation do?

If you've been on a spiritual path for a while, or if you're familiar with visualization meditations, you might be familiar with this technique.

What are the benefits of the cord-cutting meditation?

Regularly practicing the cord-cutting meditation can help you recover physically, energetically, transform your relationships, and improve your overall health.

Why we need to cut the cords

An energetic connection might grow between you and another person if you have some kind of attachment to them.

Family members, lovers, friends, exes, coworkers, and even people you've only met briefly or don't know personally might all have energy cords connecting them to you (think celebrities). People can send you wires without your knowledge!

These energy cables can be a major hindrance, especially if they include negative energy. These cords might pull you down if you have a chord attachment to someone you judge, resent, or need to forgive.

You almost likely have an energetic connection tying you to someone you're hung up on or long to see again, such as an ex, a former buddy, a person with whom you've burned a bridge, or even a fling you still worry over. This attachment can feel like an enormous burden, and you have no idea where it is coming from!

Do you find it difficult to forgive someone (or yourself)? Forgiveness can feel impossible at times. I discuss five stages to forgiveness in an episode of Dear Gabby. Follow my advice and discover how simple forgiving may be. Learn two spiritual techniques for removing negative energy, including a powerful cord cutting meditation, as well as the specific ways I use to forgive others and yourself, by pressing play on the video below.

How do you cut the cord in a relationship?

Imagine cutting a chord between you and this individual. Tell the person that you love and appreciate them, but that you are no longer bound to them. Imagine cutting the cords and returning your focus to your body. You may also make the practice physical by using a thread (ideally black) and imagining yourself at one end and the other (or you can use photos). Burn/cut the centre of the thread with a candle or scissors. Send your thanks to the relationship and fling the thread out the window.

How do you know if your soul is connected to someone?

A soul tie is just the feeling that another soul is present in your life for a reason. For example, if your life is extremely hectic and you meet a new potential friend or business partner, the feeling that you share a soul connection with this person may motivate you to make time in your schedule for the relationship. If a friend says they have to give up their pet because they have to move overseas unexpectedly, your clairsentient, or feeling, psychic pathway may give you the impression that you have a soul tie with this animal and that adopting it into your house is the proper thing to do for both of you. Soul ties might be thought of as the ties that bind, like in Bruce Springsteen's song!

What is the best option for cutting the cord?

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